3 Mindset Shifts to Overcome Your Bad Habits
By Craig Groeschel
Small habits make a big difference.
That’s great if you have great habits, but not so much if you don’t.
Why do you have the habits you have? And why is it so difficult to break bad habits?
Behaviors and habits never exist in a vacuum. There’s a reason you do what you do.
Below, I outline three major reasons your bad habits are so hard to break, and three mindset shifts you can make to break them. The first two are things you can change today, but the third might take a bit more time and focus from you.
At the end of the post, I also link to a few resources that have helped me build better habits.
1. You define yourself by what you think others see.
We tend to define ourselves by what we believe the influential people in our lives think about us.
Psychologists call it the “looking-glass self.” We see ourselves through the eyes of others. We let those people define us, but that is not who we are.
Remember, you are not the negative things your parent, coach, teacher, grandparent, or the bully at school said you were or made you feel like.
2. You don’t believe you’re the type of person who can stop bad habits.
Psychologists and other social scientists have repeatedly confirmed that you do what you do because of what you think of you.
James March, a professor at Stanford University, calls this the “identity model of decision-making.”
Research shows that, when making a choice, we essentially (and subconsciously) ask ourselves three questions:
- “Who am I?”
- “What kind of situation is this?”
- “What would someone like me do in this situation?”
Your self-identity is a primary reason you approach decisions the way you do. So if you’re making bad decisions, you may need to reevaluate how you view yourself.
Why does your friend keep going from loser boyfriend to loser boyfriend? Ask her. She’ll tell you she doesn’t want to. It’s just who she is. She has always been that way. She wants a guy but always seems to attract the wrong ones.
Why does your other friend always struggle with money? Ask him. He will explain he’s just not good with money. He doesn’t want to, but he has always spent too much, always been in debt. It’s just who he is.
No. That’s not the truth about your friends. But those false beliefs become self-fulfilling prophecies if they continue to believe them.
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Craig is a Author, Pastor, Leader & Family Man